I am prompted to write this today because a friend of mine has been involved in it. This is not a topic that I am well aquainted with, but I am writing this because I would like to get different opinions or point of view (if there's any).
When I was younger, sometime during my secondary school years, I would think of people who had premarital sex as immoral people. This is because I believe that all civilised people would be able to control their lust. Furthermore, our young minds are constantly being drilled with the 'fact' that all those who had sex before marriage are from broken families, or those who are terrible in their studies. I thought maybe this is true because those are the people who are most desperate for love and attention.
But, the most recent case that I came accross has totally changed my mind. This particular friend of mine is a very bright student, and if I'm not mistaken, she's among the top student. How would you explain the fact that such an intelligent person could be involved in such immoral activities? It's a little mind-boggling at first, but as I continue thinking about it, I realise that no matter what, we as human beings would still have some survival instincts which is a little difficult to control. I won't consider it impossible to control, but still...you know...difficult.
My focus here is not on the person who is involved in such things, but in the social stigma that these people faced. Since most of us are being educated to understand that this type of acts are considered immoral, we would usually look at these people as 'bad' people.
Now the worse part is that when these girls are being ditched by their partners, they would have an extremely difficult time to continue their lives. On many occassions, these people would be unable to face the world because they think that nobody cares for them anymore. This would cause them to be suicidal. Worse still, they usually do not know where they can get support from. They can't talk to their parents about it for fear of being labeled 'cheap'. As for their friends, they themselves wouldn't know what is the right thing to do either. In other words, it's just back to square one.
I really do not know how to continue writing anymore. If anyone out there has some ideas of how to help my friend out of this, please leave your comment. I really appreciate it.
